We’ve all felt insecure at times. Deep down, there are still days where I feel like that chubby, awkward, pimply-faced middle school kid who hoped he wouldn’t get picked last when we divided up teams to play basketball. Some people live gripped with insecurity all their lives and they allow it to keep them imprisoned from moving forward in their careers, relationships or live in general. If you’re one of the billions of people who struggle with insecurity on some level, please keep in mind these three simple truths when you feel insecure:
When we’re battling with insecurity, we can be tempted to measure our self-worth in terms of how many people “liked” our Instagram picture or Facebook post. We give over control of self-worth to the fickle opinions of others. We need to reclaim our identity as been rooted in God’s love for us. The more we love God, the more capacity we will have to love ourselves.
“See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are! ” 1 John 3:1
2. Don’t beat yourself up over the past. God’s grace is bigger than your biggest mistake.
We’ve all blown it, but thankfully, we don’t have to live in shame or regret. You can’t build a time machine and change the past, but you can embrace God’s grace and start building a new future.
“Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. ” Philippians 3:13-14
3. You don’t need to compare your life to anyone else’s. God’s plan for you is masterfully unique!
We get tempted to scroll through other people’s “highlight reels” on social media and think our own lives don’t measure up. Let’s break out of that comparison trap! God created you to be a unique masterpiece, and that’s exactly what you are. Trust in His plan for you and keep growing to become the best possible version of yourself and you’ll change the world in your own unique way.
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. ” Ephesians 2:10
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